March Workshop: Dream Again

What is the goal (dream or ambition) that keeps tugging at you, keeps you up at night, keeps surfacing? It may be…

Posted by Carrie Lavin CPLC on Wednesday, March 17, 2021

Making Plans Happen

 

Where To Go

Time is well on its way into the year. And, those fresh plans, goals, and resolutions have fallen off the list of to do’s like days on the calendar. The brain is buzzing, cueing itself to do something, but what?!

That was me at this time last year. Life Coach Carrie Lavin and I had gone on a walk and I had rattled off the list of all the “meaningful things” I wanted to do. Months later, nothing had actually materialized and achieved. I desired to become involved in something meaningful, still. However, I felt “rudderless” and didn’t know where to start.

To make this happen, Carrie and I connected as life coach and client to make sense of how to pull those ideas out of my head and into a plan.

 

May he give you the desire of your heart

and make all your plans succeed.

Psalm 20:4 NIV

 

The Journey Begins

Carrie didn’t fix my ideas. Instead, she stopped the dizzying effect of too many ideas swirling in my brain. We talked about what I wanted, hoped and planned to do. From those ideas, she helped me navigate the journey that I needed to embark on to make those plans happen.

Ideas were put on paper. Obstacles were sorted out with plans to navigate a way to break through them. Roads were laid down to move along to reach those goals. Needing to take my fixed mindset and craft it into a growth mindset: I began my journey to pursue my purpose rather than the checkmarks on my to do list.

While coaching me, Carrie massaged my habits from a fixed mindset – for me specifically, “avoiding challenges,” to a growth mindset – a “willingness to persevere” to overcome my gremlins. What were those gremlins for me?  The “I can’t do this because” voice in my head about the obstacles in my situation that stopped me from moving forward.

I learned a lot when I began to achieve my goals. Most importantly, adopting a habit system to achieve more goals down the road. Carrie’s coaching en[courage]d me to say out loud what I wanted to do and plan it. For me, a life coach gave me cheerleading and accountability. At times, my life coaching journey needs to be refined. Carrie and I connect and continue to this partnership to once again, put purpose in my plans.

TUG Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone

The Comfort Zone

Ahhhhh, the Comfort Zone.  Something each one of us is intimately familiar with. Like our favorite pair of pandemic sweatpants, it’s safe and warm.  It’s been easy for me, and I’m sure for you, to automatically put on those same sweatpants day after day.  Likewise, many of us have gotten stuck in the Comfort Zone.  Whether it’s binging a Netflix show (guilty) or scrolling through social media or isolating ourselves at home, there are better ways we can be spending our time. I can always tell when I’ve been spending too much time in the Comfort Zone.  I feel lonely, bored, unmotivated, and, as an old Aerosmith song so aptly puts it, “my get up and go must’ve got up and went.” Read more

Coaching During Covid

 

 

 

Coaching in ‘Normal’ Times

Coach Carrie and I have known each other for years, since our kids were in preschool together. One day, while on a walk, we talked about Carrie completing her life coaching certification and for me, as a stay at home mom, a sense of wanting to do “more” outside the home. From that conversation, we began a once a week coaching session. Carrie coached me to focus my ideas, created an action plan, identified “the gremlins,” and encouraged me to achieve my goals. This was the beginning of February 2020. Read more

Self-Compassion this Christmas Season

With the overwhelm of the holiday season upon us, it’s really important to make time to take care of yourself.

Self-Care is always a great idea, and you can find lots of self-care lists online. But, to me, those can sometimes feel like another “to-do” to add to my overloaded list. 🛀🧘‍♀️ 💅 I still try my best to continue working out, taking quiet time and getting plenty of sleep during this season. What I find, though, is that as the holidays approach, I need to add in more Self-Compassion.
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Thanksgiving Thankfulness Turkey

Oops – Our Turkey – Named after the turkey in Sandra Boynton’s book, Blue Hat, Green Hat

 

Meet Oops. This is our pre-Thanksgiving turkey that we stuff throughout the month of November with feathers. Each feather has written on it something that a member of our family is grateful for. Oops has been a beloved family tradition for the past nine years now; he’s been in the family longer than our youngest!  We have saved the feathers from all of the previous years.  As the sign on Oops reads, “Gratitude is the Heart’s Memory.”  Each year, we go back to and re-read our feathers from years past and cherish the memories of visitors who joined in the tradition during their stay, past events, people and foods that we loved. It makes the kids laugh (and me tear up) to see the little-kid handwriting and spelling on those earliest feathers.
It’s not too late to make one for your family this Thanksgiving!  Here’s How:
Materials Needed:
1-  8′ x 11″ piece of thin cardboard (like a cereal box)
4 pieces of corrugated cardboard (8-14 inches square)
2- googly eyes
1- brown chenille stick
Several pieces of colored cardstock
1 brown paper bag
1 1-pound bag of dry rice or beans
Instructions:
First, use the piece of thin cardboard to cut out your turkey’s body shape like this one. I punched two holes at the base of the turkey body and put the chenille stick through it to make the legs.  Attach the googly eyes, and use colored cardstock to make the beak and the waddle.

Next, cut three circles from the corrugated cardboard: one ~9-inch diameter, one ~11-inch diameter, two ~13-inch diameter (I made mine by tracing a salad plate, a dinner plate and a large mixing bowl as templates).  Glue the cardboard circles together smallest to largest making sure to leave a 1-inch margin at the edges with no glue – this is where the feathers will be inserted.  Glue the bottom of a brown paper bag to the back of the 13-inch circle.

Glue the circles so that they line up at the bottom.

Glue two 13-inch circles together, leaving a 1-inch margin without glue, so feathers can be inserted at the top.

 

Glue the brown paper bag at the back of the second 13-inch circle. After the glue is dry, put a bag of dry rice or beans inside. This will help the turkey sit-up on the table.

Finally, cut feathers from the colored cardstock.  We’ve found the best way to do this is to take the piece of cardstock and fold it in half, and then into thirds.  Here’s a video if you are unclear on the Cutting Instructions.

Once all of the glue is dry and the feathers are ready – it’s time to gather your family and stuff your turkey – with feathers of gratitude and memories for the years to come.

After Thanksgiving, you can easily remove the feathers and the bag of rice or beans, fold up the paper bag and store your turkey for future use!

What is your favorite Thanksgiving tradition?

Carrie on Business Talk Radio

In May of 2020, Carrie was interviewed by Business Talk Radio.  You can listen to that interview here.

 

 

My Journey

My Journey to find God’s purpose for my life has not always gone according to my plan, but it has taken me on quite the adventure.

From College Grad to Corporate Dropout

I started my career in Human Resource Management but never thought that I would find it unfulfilling. I know how hopeless it feels to invest time and money into one career path, only to find that you’ve chosen the wrong one. But then… I experienced incredible growth and the courage to find new solutions for my life. Read more