With the overwhelm of the holiday season upon us, it’s really important to make time to take care of yourself.
Self-Care is always a great idea, and you can find lots of self-care lists online. But, to me, those can sometimes feel like another “to-do” to add to my overloaded list. ??♀️ ? I still try my best to continue working out, taking quiet time and getting plenty of sleep during this season. What I find, though, is that as the holidays approach, I need to add in more Self-Compassion.
Self-compassion can be thought of as having two sides:
- the nurturing, comforting, and soothing side (Self-Care)
- the protective, providing, motivating side (Self-Compassion)
For me, this looks like asking my husband for help with some of the holiday “chores”: shopping, cooking and gift wrapping. ?? Or, letting my kids address and stamp our Christmas cards. ? In past years, self-compassion for me has meant saying “No” to the Christmas traditions that I don’t particularly enjoy: building gingerbread houses ? baking and decorating cut-out cookies ?, and especially… the Elf on the Shelf ?. I forgive (and thank) myself every year for that.
My husband needs his time alone, especially when we have our usual houseful of out-of-state guests. I used to find this kinda anti-social, but he was just practicing self-compassion. And you can too.
As a coach, I often give my clients “Special Permission” to do the things they would otherwise feel guilty about.
What Self-Compassion practice do you need Special Permission for this holiday season? Permission Granted. ✍️ ?